Me and Kuyvina Enjoying a Quiet Moment |
This past weekend was so hot that the prolonged black-out did not help matter. The only time it is a little tolerable is early in the morning and in the evening. Kuyvina has learned that there is an exciting world outside for her to explore but when she lives with a bunch of women, her fate is sealed by one of the expats who has appointed herself as her caretaker and who insists on her getting a flea collar before she could be free. Like most of the things we wish for here they do not come easily and she has waited for almost a month and a collar is still not in sight. And so she could only be held while I sit or walk with her outside in the early mornings and evenings. Some mornings she is so frustrated that she gives out a heart-breaking mournful meow and then proceeds to scramble up the wire netting of the front and the back porches hanging on like a giant gecko. On one particularly scorching afternoon after playing hide and seek with my hat, she took a cat nap in the coolest place she could find, curled up in the small sink in the dining room.
Kuyvina Playing with My Hat |
Kuyvina Curled up in the Sink, Pink Tongue Sticking out |
This morning dark thick rain clouds gathered in the
sky. This had happened once before but
the clouds soon were blown away. While I
was getting ready to go running, Kuyvina had forced her way outside, big drops
of rain began to fall, she looked heavenward, bewildered. The pitter patter on the roof became louder,
heaven opened up and a heavy downpour descended on us. This was highly unusual for this time of the
year, the wind picked up and the temperature became cool enough I had to wear a
cardigan to work.
I was really looking forward to going to Lulwe in the mountain today. The rain flooded the trenches on the sides of the dirt road forming gushing streams. Its pattering on the roof drowned out conversations.
Before
we arrived at Lulwe, a man who came in with a couple of months of knee pain was
sent by the medical assistant to have an HIV test. When he returned he came in with his male
relative, the medical assistant shooed him away and asked to have his wife sent
in. He tested positive for HIV and she
was advised to get tested and she too was positive. They had three children, the middle one died
and the others were ages two and eight and had never been tested. The couple was sent off for counseling.
A woman
came in with her sixteen-months-old child, her breasts hanging out of the V of
her blouse and at once the medical assistant asked her to cover herself. She replied that her child was fussy and she
had to breastfeed him. She had seven
children, one died. Having nursed so
many children her breasts looked withered and limp, seemingly sucked dry by the
child. She was tested positive for HIV
during her antenatal visit but refused to start ARVs. Her husband had not been tested. She feared
that she would be sent home if her husband learned that she was taking
ARVs. Since there was no actual result
of her HIV test she was retested and both she and her baby were positive. Over the last few months the baby’s height
and weight had fallen off the growth chart.
Both
Lulwe and Chididi are high up in the hard-to-reach mountains but Lulwe being
close to Mozambique
where the men go for long periods to work and bring back HIV to their
spouses. A lot more women in Lulwe
tested positive for HIV than those in Chididi.
Some men from Chididi go to cut sugar canes in Nchalo and stay away from
home for a long period and they too bring home HIV infection.
The
tradition of men having to abstain from sex when their wives are six months
pregnant till six months post-partum also leads to their seeking sex
elsewhere. The practice of kupitakufa or
cleansing has been a reason for the spreading of HIV. When a woman’s husband dies, any one of her
brother-in-laws could take her as a wife.
Because there is a death in the family she has to be cleansed by having
unsafe sex with a man whom the family has to pay in cash or cows to perform the
cleansing before she would be accepted back to her family. She is sent home when there is no one to take
her as a wife and has to leave all her children to her in-laws. She has no rights to any one of them. Polygamy helps in the spread of HIV. Most men refuse to get themselves tested even
when their wives are on HIV treatment.
Agnes
being an educated woman reprimanded her woman patients for not covering
up. She was not very tall but she wore a
slinky flamenco-like dress that made her look slim and lanky; she looked very
distinctive and attractive with her high cheekbones and her corn rows on her
head tapered to form a small bun at the top of her head. When asked if she would share her husband
with other women, she smiled shyly and said no way. She knew of a man with six wives and
thirty-five children and the women raised the children.
Village women often multitask; breastfeeding their babies
while carrying a bundle on their head on their way to the market doing the
business of selling and buying. They
till the land, chop wood, pump water with a baby on their backs. I saw a woman
on one of my morning runs carrying a bundle of firewood to the market to sell
while carrying her baby on a sling with two young children in tow, one of whom
carrying a plastic bag which probably contained their food. Women may work the land but the men own the
property. It is indeed a harsh life for
these village women with little education, nebulous social standing and
insecure financial status.
After helping a young woman deliver her baby, a middle-aged
mid-wife in Sankulani threw her hands up in the air and remarked
exasperatingly, “These village women are not interested in education, all they
want to do is to get married and have many babies.”